

Noa Ilay-Shilo
My life's exploration revolves around healing connections. The connection to ourselves, with each other, with life and spirit.
Evolving into living more truly, authentically and lovingly, in intimacy with all aspects of our life.
Re-membering ourselves into whole.
I offer courses and work with parents, individuals, and communities.
I also wrote and translated books as part of this this exploration.


Once upon a time, a human baby was born. It might have been you, or perhaps it was me, It could have been anyone. This baby was born with everything he needed to become, resting inside him, as a seed of a never before seen form of a human being. Luckily, the baby was born to human parents - with hearts full of love, awakened precisely for the baby’s arrival. Unfortunately, these parents were also human - once babies themselves, born to human parents - full of love, but wounded in some very specific ways that they were about to pass on to their baby - despite of their best intentions… And this has been going on for many generations, wounded children growing far from the full healthy forms of themselves, forgetting what it was, and in this forgetfulness passing their wounds to their own kids. There is a very ancient, primary wound that is in the root of most of our wounds. It can be seen as a painful choice we were faced with in many of our early moments - We could either keep our integrity, our natural connection to our full authenticity and self - or have the love of our care takers - which actually meant belonging, being part, being taken care of, having a safe place, survive. This choice was unbearable. We were told again and again, with spoken words, charged looks, deprivation of love, threats, punishments or violence - "if you're like that you will not receive our love. If you'll be like that - you cannot be part of us, if you wouldn't be more/less of that.." At the end we had to make a choice Many of us have learnt to cut off parts that threatened safety. Sometimes - we would choose ourselves over the safety and love - and usually carry these scars as deep beliefs such as “Love is not a safe space” or “I have to make it all on my own” and “I will never belong” We have adapted foreign formations, far from the way that were natural to who we are, from the form we can flourish in. mostly we can barely remember what that is. This wound is what I’m invested in healing. I have been learning that we can heal, slowly. With a soft gaze, with the right mix of compassion and clarity - we can Re-Member the true story of who we are. We can bring back our lost parts, we can make peace within ourselves. We can go back to Love.
What I offer
Parenting as an Inner Work
NonViolent Communication (by dr. Marshall Rosenberg), has taught me how to connect with any human need in a way that sees the beauty at its' root, how to free the natural connection, empathy, and creativity, to find our way through painful dynamics that we could feel stuck in and cultivate relationships that all can thrive in.
Miraculous Parenting (by Shai Orr) reminded me what kids ask from their parents, before we've learnt to adapt to what our surrounding call "love" or "normal"
It showed me how to understand the difficulties that our kids create as a calling to awake to what our kids and our selves deeply wish for.
Combining them with what I've learnt working with children, I accompany parents in transforming the difficulties with their kids into opportunities for healing
and growing into the adults who can lovingly parent their inner children,
as well as the outer ones
Group Heart Wisdom -
supporting communities
Private sessions
Whether you are an individual, a family, or parents
seeking your way of living in a more aligned way with yourself and each other, it will be my honour to walk with you
Accompanying communities and groups
on the path of co-creation
Cultivating a culture of trust and connection
From day one she created and established a very relaxed, safe and open space that facilitated learning and openness and brought the group to a state of intimacy and connectedness in
a very quick and natural way.
Shai, Israel
Working with Noa has strengthened us as a group, mainly because her guidance is allowing us to speak about things that are hard to talk about and hence deepening our trust in the group and ourselves.
Cosima, Alma Ohana, Portugal
It was felt that her skills and attentive, calm presence is derived from her own relevant and integrated life experience which was an inspiration for self-transformation.
Jal, Israel
What I carry in my medicine bag
My work intertwines many paths, which I've been walking in, learning, and sharing for the past 15 years.
Each of them has inspired me, supported my healing and offered faith in the possibilities of being human.
These paths include:
Non-Violent Communication (by Marshall Rosenberg),
Miraculous parenting (by Shai Orr),
The work that reconnects (by Joanna Macy),
Radical aliveness (by Ann Bradney),
Grief tending, Storytelling,
and embodied exploration inspired by contact improvisation.


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